Elaine Love
Threesome Facilitator & Adventure Guide for Couples
Fantasizing About a Threesome, but Worried About the "What Ifs"?
Are you and your partner dreaming about a threesome together, but hesitant to take the leap? Perhaps you're worried about the potential of jealousy, feeling left out, or relationship drama.What if I told you that with the right guidance, these challenges could become catalysts for profound connection and personal growth!
Let Me Be Your Guide on This Intimate Adventure
Step into a realm where desires bloom, relationships flourish and fears wither away.I'm Elaine Love, your guide and partner on an exquisite journey of threesome exploration—a journey that’s less about just "trying something new" and more about expanding love, deepening trust, and co-creating a vibrant new chapter in your relationship.
"Elaine's experience and familiarity with this work are very clear. [...] If you’re fortunate enough to be reading this, book her immediately. It will be a most valuable and rare journey."
M., male
"Wow. Wow. Wow. My experience with Elaine was a dream come true. And we totally had the breakthrough I had been hoping for! It was... identity shifting!!"
M., female==**
"Elaine was masterful at listening for when the moment called for her to be our guide and when it was most serving to be our peer and playmate."
B., male
The Alchemy of Desire: Transforming Fantasy into Profound Connection
Imagine a journey where
You and your partner dance between excitement and trust, feeling truly seen by one another in joy, pleasure and growth.
Your deepest desires are celebrated, not judged—every vulnerability, every fantasy held in a safe and welcoming space.
You learn to turn complex emotions like jealousy into catalysts for deeper intimacy.
You redefine what's possible in your partnership. Your love emerges full of new potential and stronger than ever.
Personal Growth
This isn't just about pleasure—it's a transformative experience that catalyzes self-discovery and relational expansion.
Authentic Expression
Practice voicing your needs and boundaries with confidence. My carefully crafted container empowers you to be your most genuine selves.
Emotional Alchemy
Jealousy blossoms into compersion, fear transmutes into trust. Watch as old beliefs melt, making way for a more expansive, unconditional love.
For Couples Yearning for Connection, Compersion and Transformation
This container is designed for couples
Desiring a first threesome but overwhelmed by the "what ifs" or unsure how to start
Eager to rediscover each other through fresh eyes and ignite a relationship renaissance
Who've experienced challenges and want to reframe group play with intention
Curious to expand notions of intimacy and challenge societal norms
Seeking new tools to master the art of threesomes
The Arc Of My Signature Journey
Meet & Greet:
30-minute complimentary call to explore and align intentionsDeep Dive:
2-hour in-person meeting to connect and prepare for your adventure (online if travel distances are significant)Immersions 1 + 2:
Two times 2½ – 3½ hours of guided in-person magic designed for relationship expansion and embodied connectionIntegration:
1-hour call to reflect and weave the transformation into your life
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Guided Conversation
Aligning intentions and
honoring boundaries
02
Playful Connection
Spicy games to deepen trust and ignite intimacy
03
Free Exploration
Space for desires and pleasure to unfold organically
The Immersions
My unique container offers an exquisite balance of structure and freedom, creating a deeply safe space for you to explore and express your authentic desires. Our in-person immersions unfold as I seamlessly shift between guide and play partner, providing unwavering support throughout.Together, we’ll cultivate practical tools to confidently and gracefully navigate the delicate dynamics of three-way play.If challenging emotions arise, I’ll hold space for you, allowing vulnerability to alchemize into profound intimacy. This permission to be vulnerable is one of the greatest gifts of exploring with me first—empowering you to embrace complex feelings in a supportive setting and equipping you to create drama-free, deeply connected threesomes.
Embodied Authenticity
I bring my whole self—from radiant joy to powerful vulnerability. Clients, lovers and friends all celebrate my inspiring authenticity, finding courage to open up too.
Structure for Play
Freedom flourishes within carefully established boundaries. I craft containers where surrender feels safe, where play and profound connection emerge naturally.
Deep Empathy
Complex emotions need tender guidance. Through compassionate listening and skilled space holding, I ensure everyone feels heard, seen, and honored.
Investment: The Value of Transformation
Sliding scale
This unique offer distills the decade of wisdom I've gathered into a carefully crafted, powerfully transformational container. I genuinely desire to make it accessible to couples committed to their growth through a sliding scale. Please enquire for details.Venue
Your home or a hotel of your choice—whichever feels best for you.Travel
I am based in San Francisco and kindly ask that you cover my travel expenses, including Uber fares and flights.
The investment is for my time and professional guidance only. Any activities that occur during the immersions are between consenting adults and not contracted or compensated for.
Get in Touch
Let's Start The Next Chapter Of Your Love Story!
Contact me via the simple form below, text me or find me on Signal at +1 (628) 264-9268 (include +1 on Signal). No unscheduled calls, thank you.Please cover these 4 questions:
What are your and your partner's names?
Where did you find me?
Where are you based?
What’s drawing you to the adventure and how do you see it align with your dreams? Take a moment to tell me about yourselves and share from your heart.
If I sense that we're a good fit, I’ll email you back within a day with booking info so you can schedule your complimentary meet-&-greet video call, and we’ll take it from there!Note: I work exclusively with established couples and am unable to accommodate single clients. Thank you for your understanding.
Desire whispers. Trust deepens. Love expands.
For over a decade, I've been joining couples in their threesome explorations, weaving magic that transforms relationships. I believe threesomes are far more than physical encounters; they are celebrations of your unique partnership, mirrors reflecting the boundless beauty of your love, and gateways to deeper trust.I'm here not only as an educator and facilitator, but also as an ally, and as a play partner—someone genuinely thrilled to co-create a profound and loving adventure with you both.As a happily married polyamorous woman, my lived experience infuses every aspect of our work together, offering you real-world wisdom alongside heartfelt guidance.
"I would recommend Elaine to anyone looking to explore group play—whether trying to navigate triggers more skillfully, or looking to deepen their capacity for intimacy."
E., male
"The space created for open communication and taking things slow put me not only at ease, but also in a state of excitement and deep awareness."
S., female
"I now feel even closer to my partner and so much better equipped to navigate play spaces together."
O., male
My Journey: From Hidden Desires to Liberated Love
Life has a delicious way of preparing us for our calling. Raised in the Western European countryside by parents who modeled a beautiful marriage, I felt the cage of conventional relationships. In my first love—a five-year relationship—I carried the secret weight of being deeply attracted to our best friend, shame coloring every moment of that otherwise tender connection.Today, I inhabit a different story. My marriage began with a threesome the day I met my husband, blossoming into the most nourishing relationship of my life. Here, I feel supremely free, deeply committed, and fully celebrated. This isn't just theory for me—it's lived wisdom flowing through every facilitation.
Discovering
My Calling
One of my most profound early experiences was with a couple of high school sweethearts. After ten years together, they stood at a crossroads: break up or open up. Our shared journey not only preserved their connection but deepened it—they got engaged weeks later and are still married today, raising two beautiful children.This is the transformative power of conscious exploration: what seems like a threat to love can become its gateway to expansion.
From Limitation to Liberation:
Three New Beliefs to Shift Your Paradigm
My approach gently challenges three limiting beliefs that keep many couples from experiencing the full spectrum of their love:
Love Grows Through Adventure
Instead of seeing commitment as the end of exploration, we'll discover how your relationship can become a platform for shared adventures.Attraction Amplifies Connection
Rather than viewing outside attraction as a threat, we'll explore how acknowledging these feelings can deepen your primary bond.Joy Begets More Joy
Beyond jealousy lies compersion—the exquisite pleasure of witnessing your partner's joy. In our safe container, you'll have space to explore this profound shift.
Experience Meets Expertise
10+ years joining couples for joyful threesomes, often their first
6 years facilitating conscious play spaces and consent workshops
5 years in a thriving polyamorous marriage
6 sexual, spiritual, shamanic ISTA Trainings (tantra, embodiment & emotional release tools)
3 times assistant at Dance Meets Tantra immersions
1 life coach certification for masterful guidance
1 couples tantra training with the renowned Ma Ananda Sarita
1st ever Unicorn Retreat with Reid Mihalko (a 'unicorn' is a rare third for couples)
3 continents and 7 major cities lived in
A career in tech and a Masters degree from a top university
Countless stories of group play and transformation to share
Your Adventure Awaits
Together, we'll turn curiosity into conscious exploration, fear into freedom, and fantasy into a gateway for deeper connection. Let's begin this exquisite journey of discovery.
We've both enlarged our worlds with new levels of compersion for each other and compassion for ourselves.
After 30 years of stable and happy marriage, my wife and I decided to explore the frontiers of our post-child-rearing relationship. We could not have found a better guide on this adventure than Elaine who, in addition to heat, joy and playfulness, brought wisdom, empathy and deep experience to the journey.The immersions themselves were magical, and her practice of working with us afterwards to help integrate the experience into our core identities was transformative. We have learned to take joyful leaps into the unknown in our relationships as well as our careers and daily lives.~ M., male
I have never felt such a deep sense of acceptance in an erotic experience. Celebrated and even turned-on by parts of myself that I had long held in shame.
Despite years of exploring sexual group dynamics, Elaine Love’s powerful portal profoundly deepened my understanding of healing.Her masterful communication framework, hands-on exercises, and intelligent toolkit created a safe container for transformation and juicy exploration. With deep attunement, focus on self-reflection, and genuine care, she guided me toward my authentic voice—not just allowing me to moan more freely in pleasure, but to transmute discomfort into connection.My beloved and I unlocked a new level of trust, emotional resonance, and sustained erotic charge. Beyond the bedroom, her tools continue to empower my everyday life.~ S., female
Within weeks, Elaine's methodology led to growth that years of therapy couldn't achieve.
Working with Elaine was truly life changing for me. She is so caring, supportive, and knowledgeable that my partner and I were able to have an incredible experience throughout. Any couple looking to grow, spark desire, and understand themselves more fully would benefit from working with her.~ L., female
Wow. Wow. Wow. My experience with Elaine was a dream come true.
My partner and I worked with Elaine to lean into and address a particular place of fear and tenderness when we are in threesomes with another woman.Elaine brought an exquisite level of care, presence, attunement and play to our in-person session and our integration call. I could not have imagined a more sexy AND safe experience! And we totally had the breakthrough I had been hoping for! It was... identity shifting!!~ M., female
Great + rating! Six stars! No, seriously, working with Elaine was an absolute game-changer for me and my partner.
Our sessions felt like a deeply personal, tailored journey into connection and intimacy.We have been curious but cautious about playing with others for a while, and Elaine created a safe, supportive environment that removed all fear and hesitation. The experience not only deepened the bond between my partner and me but also opened us up to a whole new way of understanding and embracing connection with others.Skill, professionalism, warmth, and an unmatched ability to cultivate trust and comfort - what more could you ask for? Thanks, Elaine, for your killer work. Truly transformative!~ J., male
Elaine crafted an arc that was the perfect balance of exercises, sharing and free play.
She was masterful at listening for when the moment called for her to be our guide and when it was most serving to be our peer and playmate.She clearly has a unique gift at helping couples in this especially vulnerable place of erotic exploration. I am SO grateful for our experience with Elaine. Thank you!~ M. female
Elaine is an incredible mix of wit, compassion and allure.
Throughout our sessions, she masterfully navigated the delicate and shifting dynamics of our experience, bringing heart, care, and presence that guided us effortlessly from playful to deeply intense and erotic moments.Her experience and familiarity with this work are very clear. I trust her completely.
If you’re fortunate enough to be reading this, book her immediately. It will be a most valuable and rare journey.~ B., male
Elaine masterfully held a container, dedicated to my partner and I, while also bringing her full, delicious erotic energy.
Prior to our session with Elaine, I had never had a great threesome experience. With a sense of needing to manage both partners’ experiences, I haven’t been able to drop as deeply into my pleasure and flow as I can with just a single partner. The exercises Elaine guided us through helped presence, and mitigate the little concerns or blocks that would previously take me out of the moment. I felt safe enough to bring my full self, and finished the evening feeling deeply nourished, and closer to my partner.I would recommend Elaine to anyone looking to explore group play—whether trying to navigate triggers more skillfully, or looking to deepen their capacity for intimacy.~ E., male
I highly recommend for couples who want to learn how to navigate group settings.
I am so grateful to have had this experience with my partner and Elaine as our facilitator.I went into the day a bit nervous, but the space created for open communication and taking things slow put me not only at ease, but also in a state of excitement and deep awareness of myself and others involved. Elaine fostered an environment through a series of games that erased my fears and made me comfortable while giving me tools to embark on more fun and sexy journeys with my partner for times to come.~ S., female
I now feel even closer to my partner and so much better equipped to navigate play spaces together.
I deeply appreciate Elaine and her unique gifts; this was an amazing opportunity to deepen together and have her hold space beautifully for me and my partner in terms of exercises in openness, communication, playfulness and safety.~ O., male
Get In Touch (intake form embed)
Thank you for your courage and curiosity—you're taking the first step toward a thrilling new adventure together.
Client Verification
We are about to embark on a journey full of vulnerabilities. For my safety, I require a light screening for all new couples. This information will be kept private, secure, and will be shared with no one. Rest assured, your privacy is as important to me as it is to you.Required:
Legal name, email address, and phone number for safety verification. I respect your privacy and won’t reach out without consent.
In addition, please provide at least 1 of the following:
1-2 recent tantrika/provider references with contact info and a link to their website or ad. If you haven't seen a provider recently or ever, reach out to me and I'll work with you on this.
Employment info like your name and photo on a company website or a LinkedIn profile with 100+ connections. (A photo is essential to verify your identity.)
Google search presence: If I can find your name and photo through a quick search, it helps confirm your identity.
Change Log
Dec 4: Added additional CTAs to link to experience on About, Testimonials, and a CTA to About on Testimonials. Added 'Can be split into 2 sessions'Dec 12: Changed '(Full) Testimonials' to '(Read More) Praise' but only on the homepage. Propagated on other pages on Dec 17Outage on Dec 16-17, but traffic dropped on Dec 15. Check what's happening!Jan 4: Improved images
Jan ?: Updted About page with more info and imagesJan 16:
- Changed 'The Experience'/'Explore Experience' to 'The Adventure'/'Start Your Adventure'
- changed layout of testimonials to increase dwell time
- Moved top 3 qualities from About to Experience
- Replaced image at the bottom of About from hands reaching across back to red lingerieJan 16-17: Sacred Eros profile updateFeb 4:
- Nav bar: Reduced it to 2 lines: Made font smaller on mobile, changed 'Get in touch' to 'Contact'
- Changed 'Praise' to 'Testimonials' in nav and on buttons
- Turned instructions for how to enquire into numbered list and added 'tell me... take your time...'Mar 2: 3s photos were approved on TrystMar 17: Given the drop in enquiries, I've simplified the enquiry page again and removed 'Take your time' and 'If I sense that we're a good fit,'Mar 26: Changed locations on Tryst from SF + Oakland + San Rafael to SF + Oakland + San Jose based on Heap location data insightsMar 31: Changed Tryst profile from Escort to MassageApril 16: Tax day. More messages start to come in, but few quality leads.April 19: Changed sort order of photos on Tryst to document the journey a couple goes on, from conversation to more raunchy playApr 22: Given the increase in (low quality) enquiries, I'm adding 'Take your time' and 'If I sense that we're a good fit,' back in