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Dreaming about a threesome together, but hesitant to take the leap? Perhaps you're worried about jealousy. Feeling left out. Relationship drama.Without guidance, threesomes often leave couples navigating complex emotions in real-time, managing triggers on the fly, spending months working through the aftermath, and wondering why something that was supposed to bring pleasure created pain instead.It doesn't have to be this way. With the right guidance, these challenges become catalysts for connection and growth. Your desires find safe expression. Your relationship deepens. Your fears transform into trust.
This isn't just about "trying something new". It's about what becomes possible when you approach threesomes consciously, and co-creating a vibrant new chapter in your relationship. Imagine a journey where:
You and your partner dance between excitement and trust, feeling truly seen in joy, pleasure and growth.
Your deepest desires are celebrated, not judged—every vulnerability, every fantasy held with care.
Even complex emotions like jealousy become catalysts for deeper intimacy, not threats.
You redefine what's possible, and your love emerges full of new potential and stronger than ever.

Personal Growth
This isn't just about pleasure. It's a transformative experience that catalyzes self-discovery and relational expansion.
Authentic Expression
Practice voicing your needs, boundaries, and challenges with confidence and vulnerability. There's room for all of you here.
Emotional Alchemy
Jealousy can become turn-on. Fear transforms into trust. Old beliefs that held you back make way for new possibilities.
Why not just find someone on Tinder?Most couples face endless swiping, ghosting, awkward interactions, and have no idea how to navigate the moment when you're all together.Worse: complex emotions like jealousy arise unexpectedly.—Plus, the third person you just met can't (and shouldn't) hold space for your relationship dynamics.As your expert guide, I teach you the essential tools before things get complicated.—How to communicate boundaries. Check in without disrupting flow. Navigating intensity together. I hold the frame so you can let go. And you'll build skills that will serve you far beyond our time together.


While it's hard to find either a unicorn for a threesome, or a coach who can talk you through it, there's nobody else out there who combines both. I serve as your guide and active play partner throughout a carefully structured multi-session journey.As Your Play Partner, I bring my whole self—from radiant joy to grounded presence.As Your Guide, I teach you the communication tools and practices you'll need for any future explorations. How to voice boundaries clearly. Check in during intimacy. Navigate intensity.When challenging emotions arise, I hold space for you, allowing vulnerability to alchemize into profound intimacy. This permission to be vulnerable is one of the greatest gifts of exploring with me. You get to move through engrained patterns and fears in a safe setting. Here, profound shifts occur, opening pathways to new beliefs about love, desire, and connection.Curious about my story? Learn why this work is my calling.
"Elaine's experience and familiarity with this work are very clear. [...] If you’re fortunate enough to be reading this, book her immediately. It will be a most valuable and rare journey."
M., male
"Wow. Wow. Wow. My experience with Elaine was a dream come true. And we totally had the breakthrough I had been hoping for! It was... identity shifting!!"
M., female
"Elaine was masterful at listening for when the moment called for her to be our guide and when it was most serving to be our peer and playmate."
B., male
Desiring a first threesome but overwhelmed by the "what ifs" or unsure how to start
Hesitant after a previous threesome didn't go well and ready to try again with expert support
Eager to rediscover each other through fresh eyes and ignite a relationship renaissance
Curious to expand notions of intimacy and challenge societal norms
Seeking practical tools to navigate the art of the threesome with confidence
Keen to enhance their sex life through tantra and conscious sexuality
Ready to explore with expert guidance rather than figuring it out through trial and error


A curated arc of structure and freedom, where each session builds on the previous—combining education, practice, and integration to create lasting transformation in your relationship
Meet & Greet:
45-minute complimentary call to explore your desires and intentions to ensure we're a good fit
Deep Dive:
2-hour coaching to connect, build trust, and prepare for your immersions (in-person or online)
Threesome Foundations Immersion:
Multiple hours of guided exploration and spicy connection games to build skills, confidence, and safety
Integration 1:
1-hour call to reflect, anchor tools, and prepare for deeper exploration
Three-Way Play Immersion:
Multiple hours of organic play, where desire and connection unfold naturally
Integration 2:
1-hour call to celebrate and weave the transformation into your lives
1 · Guided Conversation
Conversation frameworks that help align intentions and honor boundaries
2 · Playful Connection
Spicy games to deepen trust and ignite intimacy
3 · Free Exploration
Space for desires and pleasure to unfold organically
The Signature Threesome Journey is my most comprehensive offering, combining expert guidance with active participation as your play partner throughout a structured multi-session experience.Looking for something more focused? I also offer standalone sessions: Threesome Foundations, Three-Way Play, Tantric Bedroom Reconnection, Embody & Release, Pleasure Expansion, and Non-Monogamy Coaching.Many couples start with focused sessions before moving to the full Journey, or choose à la carte experiences that fit their budget, readiness, and desires.


Whether you're certain this is your path or simply curious to learn more, your first step is a complimentary 30-minute meet & greet call.Let's explore your desires, address your questions, and see if we're a good fit.
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Threesome Foundations
Want to build skills and confidence for threesome adventures? Through spicy consent games, conversation frameworks, tips and tools, you'll learn to express desires, celebrate boundaries, and navigate threesome dynamics with curiosity, care, and confidence.
Three-Way Play
Ready to dive in with a trusted guide and play partner? I invite you into curiosity, playfulness, and spontaneous connection. Your desires lead, our creativity flourishes, and together we follow the delicious surprise of what wants to emerge between us moment to moment.
Tantric Bedroom Reconnection
Ready to reignite or deepen the sexual connection between you two? I guide you through intimate practices—from tantra to (4-handed) massage and primal play—helping you move beyond stuck patterns and rediscover each other's pleasure with fresh eyes and renewed desire.
Non-Monogamy Coaching
Navigating the transition toward consensual non-monogamy or opening your relationship? Through video or in-person conversations, we'll explore your unique challenges, clarify your desires, and create pathways forward that feel authentic and nourishing for all involved.
Express & Release
Struggling to feel or embody your emotions fully? Through somatic practices, you'll learn to move feelings through your body, deepening your emotional range. Transform how you relate to your anger, sadness, jealousy, or fear, to shift how you show up in relationships.
Pleasure Expansion
Ready to expand what pleasure feels like in your body? Imagine unlocking orgasmic potential you didn't know was possible. Waves of pleasure that ripple through your entire being. We'll release numbness, shame, or trauma, and awaken deeper sensations, aliveness, and connection to your erotic self.
A Weekend Immersion · December 13–14, 2025, 10am–7pm · Private Home, Oakland, CAReady to stop fearing jealousy and start playing with it?This immersive workshop offers a bold playground for those ready to turn toward the shadows, express desire, play with taboo, and make contact with deeper truth, aliveness and eros.This is not therapy. This is not transcending jealousy. It's an immersive exploration of jealousy as a pathway to deeper connection.
Jealousy Playground Testimonial SnippetsJealousy Playground was like microdosing intense emotions in a safe and supportive container. ~ T., maleSurprisingly very fun for me! It was so healing to be able to do relational work with parts that are so disowned and judged—especially in the conscious communities. ~ L., femaleI discovered how deeply deserving and valuable my jealous parts are—and I got to have FUN while pushing edges. ~ M., female

Want to facilitate threesomes for couples but unsure how to structure sessions? Freezing when jealousy shows up? Struggling to attract aligned clients?You're not alone. This work is complex—most practitioners figure it out in isolation.I mentor intimacy coaches and practitioners through the challenges of couples work: designing sessions that create transformation (not just titillation), navigating jealousy and power dynamics with skill, and attracting clients seeking depth.What makes this mentoring different? I draw on three realms: working with client couples professionally, exploring threesomes and play spaces personally, and navigating a thriving polyamorous marriage.
You get proven frameworks rooted in real-world complexity and lived experience.Whether you're launching your first couples offering or feeling stuck, you'll get practical guidance, honest feedback, and support to build a practice that nourishes you and serves your clients deeply.
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After submitting the form below, you will be able to schedule your complimentary meet & greet call. As my calendar fills quickly, I recommend reaching out early so we can plan your experience with the spaciousness it deserves.Locations & Travel
I’m based in San Francisco and available throughout the wider Bay Area. I also frequently visit LA, San Diego, New York, Boston, Austin, and Denver and am happy to meet you anywhere across the U.S., provided travel expenses are covered.Is This for You?
I welcome adults of all ages, genders, and orientations. I specialize on working with established couples, and only some of my offerings are available for individuals.
Not ready to schedule your call? Please save this link https://elaine-love.com/#schedule, so you can return to this page.Please add elaine@elaine-love to your contacts, so my emails and calendar invites won't land in your spam.I’ll follow up to confirm our call. If I sense that we might not be a good fit, I will politely cancel our meeting. Thank you for your understanding.I’m so excited to meet you!
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Threesomes Are My Calling
Witnessing couples fall in love all over again through their threesome explorations—with me as their catalyst—there's nothing that brings me more joy.For over a decade, I've been joining couples in their threesome explorations, transforming fantasy into profound connection. As a happily married polyamorous woman, everything I teach comes from lived experience.I believe threesomes are far more than physical encounters. They are celebrations of your partnership, mirrors reflecting the beauty of your love, and gateways to deeper trust.I'm here as your guide, your play partner, and your ally—genuinely thrilled to co-create this adventure with you.
Threesome Expert & Pleasure Expansion Guide
I've had 100+ threesomes—experiences that have taught me what creates profound connection versus what creates drama. I've trained extensively in tantra and somatic practices, and spent 1.5 years developing a unique curriculum.Today, I'm the only practitioner who combines education, coaching, and active participation as your play partner throughout a structured multi-session journey.But I wasn't always here. My path to this work was shaped by beliefs I had to unlearn.

"I would recommend Elaine to anyone looking to explore group play—whether trying to navigate triggers more skillfully, or looking to deepen their capacity for intimacy."
E., male
"The space created for open communication and taking things slow put me not only at ease, but also in a state of excitement and deep awareness."
S., female
"I now feel even closer to my partner and so much better equipped to navigate play spaces together."
O., male

What I Grew Up Believing
Raised catholic by happily married parents in Western Europe, I absorbed unspoken beliefs about love:
Committed relationships mean adventure ends
Attraction to others threatens your relationship
When your partner desires someone else, jealousy is the only appropriate response
These beliefs shaped my idea of love, and they led to my first heartbreak.
The Cost of Those Beliefs
I stayed with my first boyfriend for five years. Throughout that entire relationship, I was also secretly attracted to our best friend.I felt so wrong. So ashamed. I didn't tell anybody.Eventually, I broke up with my boyfriend. I was convinced there was something fundamentally wrong with me, or with our love.I spent the next several years in serial monogamy, carrying those old beliefs, suppressing attraction I judged as immoral.


Learning from Others' Courage
Years later, I met high school sweethearts. Ten years together. Deeply in love, but curious about others. They stood at a crossroads: break up, or open up. Unlike me, they had the courage to discuss their desires openly—and they invited me to join their first threesome.The connection they shared, the care they took with each other, witnessing them fall in love more deeply—mesmerizing! I discovered I'm symbiosexual: attracted to the connection between two people, not just the individuals.Weeks later, they got engaged. Today, they're married with two children. This showed me what conscious exploration could do—a truth that would shape my work years later.
Living Proof
Drawn to the beauty of couples navigating vulnerability together, I spent years joining them as the third, always holding space for their relationship.Then in 2019, I met my husband. The day we met, we had our first threesome together! One of many since.Finally, I got to experience threesomes from within the couple—navigating the vulnerability alongside my partner, falling more deeply in love with every shared adventure.With my husband, I'm deeply committed and supremely free. Our relationship proves that you don't have to choose between security and exploration, between love and freedom. This is what's possible when you let go of the old beliefs.

Shared Adventure
Love grows through shared adventure.
Instead of seeing commitment as the end of exploration, your relationship becomes a space to discover new ways of connecting together.
Attraction Amplifies
Attraction to others can amplify your connection. Rather than viewing outside attraction as a threat, acknowledging these feelings—and exploring them consciously—can deepen your primary bond.
Compersion Is Real
Beyond jealousy lies compersion.
Compersion is the joy of witnessing your partner's pleasure. With the right support, you can shift from fear to celebrating their desire, aliveness and expression.

Developing the Curriculum
For a decade, I explored threesomes with couples. I facilitated conscious play spaces where none existed. I trained extensively: 6 ISTA trainings, tantra, dark play, coaching certification, deep immersion in the Bay Area's conscious play community. All of it was preparing me.In 2023, it hit me: "I'm meant to help couples have threesomes."But having threesomes and teaching them are different animals. I spent the next 1.5 years developing my curriculum—practicing with friends, testing every element. Games. Conversation frameworks. Pacing. Transitions. Which prompts help couples align? Which games build genuine safety? What helps someone navigate feeling left out? How do I hold space when jealousy, fear, or shame surface?I refined each detail until it worked consistently. The result: the Signature Threesome Journey.
Engineering Compersion, Embracing Jealousy
I call myself a "compersion engineer"—helping people experience joy in their partner's pleasure.But what about jealousy? I used to claim I rarely felt it. The truth? I'd suppressed it so deeply I couldn't recognize it. My ego clung to one image: "I never get in the way of pleasure."Through dark play training, I've explored jealousy intentionally. Feeling it. Expressing it. Working with it. When I meet myself with compassion instead of expecting perfection, intimacy deepens.Now I help people find turn-on in the full spectrum—because transformation happens when we embrace all of ourselves.

Embodied Authenticity
I bring my whole self—from radiant joy to powerful vulnerability. Clients, lovers and friends all celebrate my inspiring authenticity, finding courage to open up too.
Structure for Play
Freedom flourishes within carefully established boundaries. I craft spaces where surrender feels safe, where play and profound connection emerge naturally.
Deep Empathy
Complex emotions need tender guidance. Through compassionate listening and skilled space holding, I ensure everyone feels heard, seen, and honored.
Experience Meets Expertise
1.5 years curriculum development for the Signature Threesome Journey
10+ years joining couples for joyful threesomes, often their first
6 years in a thriving polyamorous relationship, married since 4 years
6 years facilitating conscious play spaces and consent workshops
6 ISTA Trainings (sexual, spiritual, shamanic tantra trainings)
5 years at Burning Man, gifted threesome workshops & temple nights
3 Dance Meets Tantra immersions assisted
3 Dark Play trainings (1x Light Dark Institute, 2x Adam Chacksfield)
2-day Jealousy Playground immersion co-facilitated
1 life coach certification for masterful guidance
1 couples tantra training with the renowned Ma Ananda Sarita
1st ever Unicorn Retreat with Reid Mihalko (a 'unicorn' is a third for couples)
3 continents and 7 major cities lived in
A career in tech and a Masters degree from a top university
Countless stories of group play and transformation to share


I went from suppressed desire and break ups to deep commitment and freedom. From shame and secrecy to celebration and openness. From fear of jealousy to finding turn-on in the full spectrum.This transformation is waiting for you.Whether you're ready for the Signature Threesome Journey or want to explore how we might work together, I'd love to hear from you.
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As facilitators of couples’ journeys ourselves, we can say without hesitation: This was a 20 out of 10 experience.
Our experience with Elaine not only met our hopes—it far exceeded them.Our journey as a couple has been both long and layered. We’ve enjoyed 30 years in a monogamous relationship, with only one shared experience outside of that bond. 5 years ago, we uncovered past trauma that called us to pause, re-evaluate, and consciously re-align with a new and more authentic version of the relationship we both deeply desire.Elaine became an essential guide in this process. She supported us in healing a profound wound, and did so with such wisdom, grace, and delicacy. Her presence was grounding, and her professionalism was truly exceptional.Through our work with her, we’ve each experienced remarkable personal shifts, along with powerful transformations in our relationship and our sexual healing. It genuinely felt as though the heavy weight of our old wound was lifting with each session.One of the greatest gifts was realizing how often we live in our heads—and how liberating it is to return to our bodies and souls. Elaine helped us open the doorway into Eros, and stepping through it was both soothing and exhilarating.Thank you, Elaine, for holding us with such depth, care, and brilliance.~ C., female, & J., male
We've both enlarged our worlds with new levels of compersion for each other and compassion for ourselves.
After 30 years of stable and happy marriage, my wife and I decided to explore the frontiers of our post-child-rearing relationship. We could not have found a better guide on this adventure than Elaine who, in addition to heat, joy and playfulness, brought wisdom, empathy and deep experience to the journey.The immersions themselves were magical, and her practice of working with us afterwards to help integrate the experience into our core identities was transformative. We have learned to take joyful leaps into the unknown in our relationships as well as our careers and daily lives.~ M., male
Elaine guided us into an experience that was both deeply healing and deliciously sensual.
We came to Elaine at a time when we felt disconnected from physical intimacy—stuck in our heads and feeling awkward about how to navigate it, wanting to re-spark our sexual connection.She created a safe, playful, and sexy space where nothing felt forced or uncomfortable, and where all of our feelings and expressions were welcome.Through her attunement, embodied presence, and somatic practices, she skillfully shifted between guiding, witnessing, and participating—helping us move from self-consciousness into flow. The arc of the experience, from intention setting and playful games to intimate exploration and integration, gave us permission to let go, stay in our bodies, and simply be with each other.We felt lighter, reconnected, and more in love after this beautiful experience.~ K. (female) & F. (male)
I have never felt such a deep sense of acceptance in an erotic experience. Celebrated and even turned-on by parts of myself that I had long held in shame.
Despite years of exploring sexual group dynamics, Elaine Love’s powerful portal profoundly deepened my understanding of healing.Her masterful communication framework, hands-on exercises, and intelligent toolkit created a safe container for transformation and juicy exploration. With deep attunement, focus on self-reflection, and genuine care, she guided me toward my authentic voice—not just allowing me to moan more freely in pleasure, but to transmute discomfort into connection.My beloved and I unlocked a new level of trust, emotional resonance, and sustained erotic charge. Beyond the bedroom, her tools continue to empower my everyday life.~ S., female
Deep personal transformation, allowing me to shed sexual shame and self doubt that I had not even been aware of
My initial intention was to enjoy some playful exploration... Way beyond that, I left feeling transformed and ready for more!~ J., female
Within weeks, Elaine's methodology led to growth that years of therapy couldn't achieve.
Working with Elaine was truly life changing for me. She is so caring, supportive, and knowledgeable that my partner and I were able to have an incredible experience throughout. Any couple looking to grow, spark desire, and understand themselves more fully would benefit from working with her.~ L., female
I’m a shy girl and was shocked at how comfortable I felt every step of the way!
Elaine was the perfect guide for my and my husband’s initiation into group play. We were both quite nervous to step into this new realm of our relationship and knew we needed to go slowww.Elaine’s completely unique offering allowed us to explore a shared fantasy in a safe and structured container. I believe that her “being” skills are her biggest strength. She’s grounded, confident, comfortable in her own skin, and led us at the perfect pace through the different exercises. She did an amazing job prompting and holding space for everything that came up for us in this extremely edgy and vulnerable experience.All in all, I would recommend absolutely investing in this experience as a bridge into three-way exploration.~ J., female
Wow. Wow. Wow. My experience with Elaine was a dream come true.
My partner and I worked with Elaine to lean into and address a particular place of fear and tenderness when we are in threesomes with another woman.Elaine brought an exquisite level of care, presence, attunement and play to our in-person session and our integration call. I could not have imagined a more sexy AND safe experience! And we totally had the breakthrough I had been hoping for! It was... identity shifting!!~ M., female
Great + rating! Six stars! No, seriously, working with Elaine was an absolute game-changer for me and my partner.
Our sessions felt like a deeply personal, tailored journey into connection and intimacy.We have been curious but cautious about playing with others for a while, and Elaine created a safe, supportive environment that removed all fear and hesitation. The experience not only deepened the bond between my partner and me but also opened us up to a whole new way of understanding and embracing connection with others.Skill, professionalism, warmth, and an unmatched ability to cultivate trust and comfort - what more could you ask for? Thanks, Elaine, for your killer work. Truly transformative!~ J., male
Elaine crafted an arc that was the perfect balance of exercises, sharing and free play.
She was masterful at listening for when the moment called for her to be our guide and when it was most serving to be our peer and playmate.She clearly has a unique gift at helping couples in this especially vulnerable place of erotic exploration. I am SO grateful for our experience with Elaine. Thank you!~ M. female
Elaine is an incredible mix of wit, compassion and allure.
Throughout our sessions, she masterfully navigated the delicate and shifting dynamics of our experience, bringing heart, care, and presence that guided us effortlessly from playful to deeply intense and erotic moments.Her experience and familiarity with this work are very clear. I trust her completely.
If you’re fortunate enough to be reading this, book her immediately. It will be a most valuable and rare journey.~ M., male
Elaine masterfully held a container, dedicated to my partner and I, while also bringing her full, delicious erotic energy.
Prior to our session with Elaine, I had never had a great threesome experience. With a sense of needing to manage both partners’ experiences, I haven’t been able to drop as deeply into my pleasure and flow as I can with just a single partner. The exercises Elaine guided us through helped presence, and mitigate the little concerns or blocks that would previously take me out of the moment. I felt safe enough to bring my full self, and finished the evening feeling deeply nourished, and closer to my partner.I would recommend Elaine to anyone looking to explore group play—whether trying to navigate triggers more skillfully, or looking to deepen their capacity for intimacy.~ E., male
I highly recommend for couples who want to learn how to navigate group settings.
I am so grateful to have had this experience with my partner and Elaine as our facilitator.I went into the day a bit nervous, but the space created for open communication and taking things slow put me not only at ease, but also in a state of excitement and deep awareness of myself and others involved. Elaine fostered an environment through a series of games that erased my fears and made me comfortable while giving me tools to embark on more fun and sexy journeys with my partner for times to come.~ S., female
I now feel even closer to my partner and so much better equipped to navigate play spaces together.
I deeply appreciate Elaine and her unique gifts; this was an amazing opportunity to deepen together and have her hold space beautifully for me and my partner in terms of exercises in openness, communication, playfulness and safety.~ O., male
Dec 4: Added additional CTAs to link to experience on About, Testimonials, and a CTA to About on Testimonials. Added 'Can be split into 2 sessions'Dec 12: Changed '(Full) Testimonials' to '(Read More) Praise' but only on the homepage. Propagated on other pages on Dec 17Outage on Dec 16-17, but traffic dropped on Dec 15. Check what's happening!Jan 4: Improved images
Jan ?: Updted About page with more info and imagesJan 16:
- Changed 'The Experience'/'Explore Experience' to 'The Adventure'/'Start Your Adventure'
- changed layout of testimonials to increase dwell time
- Moved top 3 qualities from About to Experience
- Replaced image at the bottom of About from hands reaching across back to red lingerieJan 16-17: Sacred Eros profile updateFeb 4:
- Nav bar: Reduced it to 2 lines: Made font smaller on mobile, changed 'Get in touch' to 'Contact'
- Changed 'Praise' to 'Testimonials' in nav and on buttons
- Turned instructions for how to enquire into numbered list and added 'tell me... take your time...'Mar 2: 3s photos were approved on TrystMar 17: Given the drop in enquiries, I've simplified the enquiry page again and removed 'Take your time' and 'If I sense that we're a good fit,'Mar 26: Changed locations on Tryst from SF + Oakland + San Rafael to SF + Oakland + San Jose based on Heap location data insightsMar 31: Changed Tryst profile from Escort to MassageApril 16: Tax day. More messages start to come in, but few quality leads.April 19: Changed sort order of photos on Tryst to document the journey a couple goes on, from conversation to more raunchy playApr 22: Given the increase in (low quality) enquiries, I'm adding 'Take your time' and 'If I sense that we're a good fit,' back inMay 6–11: Tryst listing was expired
Early May: Posted listings on PD > surge of traffic. Then listings got deleted.May 12: Posted new PD listings with UTM tracking. Also posted tours on Tryst.May 15: Removed my phone number from all ads. Added more questions on contact form.Sep 29: Changed "The Adventure" back to "The Journey" in the navigation. Added headlines for "Testimonials", "My Core Values", "Immersion Flow"Oct 3: Added Offers page. Added newsletter & Signal sign up at the top of the Contact page. (created a backup copy of the page)Oct 7: Combined Home + Journey page (created a backup copy of the page). Added newsletter + signal sign up at the top of all pages. Added Instagram button in the footer.
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